Sarah, a 30-year-old graphic designer, met Matt through a colleague at the imaging tech company where they both worked.
"I didn't really notice him at first because he had a beard, and beards weren't my thing," she says.
And if you decide to pursue it, you'll need to define areas of discretion, such as where and how you can meet comfortably without involving your colleagues, and how you can communicate with each other without utilizing company resources like email and cell phones.
And also, how to keep any disagreements or tensions in your personal relationship out of the office.
And you also have to think about how comfortable the two of you would be about being the subject of gossip and rumors at work.
So you really have to think about the implications of pursuing a relationship with your co-worker.
Dear Ron, A colleague of mine from work has asked me out a few times and while I like him, I'm not sure how good an idea it would be to date a co-worker. First of all, you want to know how your company culture responds to this kind of thing -- there are some companies that strongly discourage relationships among employees and others that are more tolerant of it, so you need to get a handle on that.
If you don't already have a sense of this, you could ask a more experienced colleague that you trust whether they knew of people at the company who have dated, and how the company (and other colleagues) responded.
Some people are not bothered by it, while others may feel it could impact decisions about who gets to work on what and how resources are divided up, which may or may not be true.In particular, you want to know if there were any horror stories of workers whose reputations were tarnished or had to leave the company.If your company doesn't frown on co-workers dating, then you have other considerations to think about. If you're in close, everyday contact, it may be hard to avoid having aspects of your relationship spill over into your work together.But they exchanged a few texts, then graduated to friendly lunches.
Eventually Matt asked Sarah on a date, and they talked for so long that the sushi restaurant had to kick them out.
She also has “soft” advantages, such as having access to information before the rest of the team or information she ordinarily wouldn’t.